Arguing With The Player January 17, 2009
Posted by Conrad Hubbard in : The Chip , 4 commentsTonight I was at a local neighborhood bar, and I got into one of my “moralistic” arguments with somebody. This guy came in that I had briefly talked to some other time, but this time I watched him “in action” and ended up in a conversation afterwards. Essentially, when he came in, there were three girls at a table and he started aggressively hitting on them. That only bothered me in the sense that at least one of them seemed pretty uncomfortable with his onslaught. I tried to passively interject myself, on their behalf, a couple of times, but I was concerned that more testosterone might only make them feel more uncomfortable than they already were.
Anyway, the three of them took off pretty shortly after this guy started hitting on them. Deprived of any female targets outside of the bar staff, he started talking to guys at the bar. Of course that included me. He started bragging about his female conquests. I kept quiet at first, but as the bragging went on I eventually spoke up. Since he loudly proclaimed that he had a regular girlfriend, I pointed out that his attempts to hit on girls in the bar were inappropriate. A fairly ridiculous conversation followed, ranging from the Biblical suggestions of how morals should work to the natural logic of the situation.
What is the deal with people who pretend some sense of partnership with their mate, and then betray that by pursuing other partners? Worse, what about those who betray multiple people, pretending that each of them is an exclusive mate?